KINK DICTIONARY – Learn your BDSM & Fetish Vocabulary
Kink from A to Z – Fetish, BDSM & alternative Lifestyles are vast, diverse, and exciting worlds filled with unique terminology. Knowing the language is essential for navigating the scene with confidence and for clearly communicating what you want and need. The Kink Dictionary introduces you to the most important terms.
Enjoy your studies!
Marie
Founder of Moonlight Society
Play & Activities
Bondage
Restricting movement using ropes, cuffs, or other restraints.
Impact Play
Spanking, flogging, paddling, or whipping.
Edge Play
Riskier BDSM activities that require trust and experience.
Breath Play
Restricting airflow for pleasure (risky and requires safety knowledge).
Wax Play
Dripping hot wax onto the skin for sensation play.
Sensory Deprivation
Removing senses (blindfolds, earmuffs, etc.) to heighten sensitivity.
Electroplay
Using electrical stimulation for pleasure or pain.
CBT (Cock & Ball Torture)
Intense stimulation or pain play focused on the genitals.
Nipple Torture
Using clamps, pinching, or other means to stimulate the nipples.
Orgasm Control
Controlling or delaying an orgasm as part of dominance.
Chastity Play
Using a chastity cage or belt to restrict sexual activity.
Pegging
A woman (or partner) penetrating a man using a strap-on.
Fetishes & Kinks
Foot Fetish
Attraction to feet, foot worship, or shoe fetishes.
Furry Play
Dressing in animal costumes or roleplaying as an anthropomorphic animal.
Cuckolding
Watching a partner engage in sex with someone else.
Voyeurism
Deriving pleasure from watching others engage in sexual activities.
Exhibitionism
Enjoying performing sexual acts in public or being watched.
Humiliation Play
Enjoying verbal degradation or embarrassing scenarios.
Age Play
Playing with age roles (e.g., Daddy/little, caregiver/child).
Medical Play
Playing doctor/nurse with real or simulated medical tools.
Sensory Play
Focusing on different sensory experiences (temperature, texture, sound).
Sissification
A submissive dressing in or being treated in a feminized manner.
Kink & BDSM
BDSM
An acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism.
Kink
Any unconventional sexual practice, fantasy, or fetish.
Vanilla
A term for non-kinky or traditional sexual activities.
Consent
A mutual agreement before engaging in any activity.
Safe Word
A pre-agreed word used to stop an activity immediately.
Aftercare
Emotional and physical care given after a scene to help participants return to a normal state.
SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual)
A common guideline in BDSM play
RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink)
A philosophy that acknowledges the inherent risks in kink but encourages informed consent.
Roles & Identities
Dom/Domme
A dominant person in a BDSM dynamic.
Sub
A submissive who follows the lead of a dominant partner.
Switch
Someone who enjoys both dominance and submission.
Top
The person performing the action in a scene (e.g., spanking, tying up).
Bottom
The person receiving the action.
Master/Mistress
A dominant title in a power-exchange relationship.
Slave
A submissive who gives a high level of control to their dominant.
Pet
A submissive who engages in animal roleplay (puppy play, kitten play, etc.).
Brat
A playful or mischievous submissive who enjoys resisting their dominant.
Daddy Dom/Mommy Domme
A nurturing dominant, often in an age-play dynamic.
Little
A submissive who enjoys age regression or a "little space" mindset.
Scene & Relationship Terms
D/s (Dominance and Submission)
A power-exchange dynamic in a relationship.
TPE (Total Power Exchange)
A relationship where the dominant has full control over the submissive.
Collaring
A symbolic or literal collar representing submission in a BDSM relationship.
Scene
A BDSM play session.
Contract
A written or verbal agreement outlining boundaries and expectations in a BDSM relationship.
Public Play
Engaging in BDSM activities in front of others, often at a club or dungeon.
Got some ideas?
If you found something that you would like to explore and investigate further, I invite you to reach out to me! I founded Moonlight Society to create a space where (new and seasoned) kinksters, hedonists, and free spirits can discover their sexuality with joy and curiosity instead of shame or judgment. The Moonlight Society Escorts and I would love to accompany you on your journey of kinky self-discovery. 🤍
I’m looking forward to hearing from you!
Marie
Founder of Moonlight Society
